by Ms. Delia of www.mistressofmean.com
A mean, strict Mistress is often thought of as a screaming, sadistic bitch, and while that can be true in certain scenes, it is emphatically not always the case. Mistresses who are strict know exactly what they want, and have the expectation that, as a good submissive, you will do exactly as you are told. Furthermore, you will do it well, with reverence, and let your true submission demonstrate how you adore your Mistress.
A Mean, Strict Mistress can also be sensual at times, but often that is a special type of scene. For the most part, Mistresses who are strict are involved in the BDSM Lifestyle, and often have submissives at their beck and call. But what are the myths about Mistresses who are strict? Let’s explore a few.
For me personally, being a lifestyle Mistress who is indeed strict, I truly despise this myth! See, I believe if a Mistress screams and yells at her submissive, then something in their dynamic is not working. Instead of screaming, I feel that a good Mistress uses her tone, gestures, and how she looks at her submissive to maintain complete control!
A Mistress who is strict DOES maintain control, and if a submissive crosses a line, certainly there is a consequence. I will go so far as to say I do not think screaming, even in a degrading humiliation scene, has a place with a good Mistress, strict or not!
This myth is simply not true. Let’s say your kink goals focus around a feminization transformation. Does there need to be pain involved in this? No! A Mistress who is strict would have rules, protocols, clearly spelled out expectations, and more to transform you.
Generally, in this scenario, pain does not play in at all. But what about punishment? Isn’t that always physical pain? No! Let’s say you are a pain slut, masochist, spanking enthusiast, or one who can’t get enough impact play. Pain would excite you, not be a deterrent. A Mean, Strict Mistress might choose to ignore you and give you mundane tasks as a punishment, and for some slaves that is pure Hell!
This myth is actually very silly. BDSM Porn movies may facilitate this kind of thinking. As a strict, lifestyle Mistress, I actually do things like grocery shop, go out to dinner, go to appointments, work out, etc. Leather and stiletto boots are just not appropriate for those activities!
A Mistress who is strict “wears” a certain attitude and demeanor no matter her outfit! A pencil skirt, pumps and stockings, and silky blouse can be just as effective as any fetish type outfit. It is all in how Mistress carries herself. The outfit can enhance, but does not “make” the woman! What is inside her does!
There is no “one size fits all” with a Mean Mistress. Knowing this, be sure to provide your Femdom Mistress with all the information she needs to know about you. Perhaps fill out a BDSM Activity Chart to give Mistress a clear picture of who you are as a submissive. A Mistress will surely personalize training, rewards, and punishments, and lay out clear rules, expectations, and protocols for you!
Can you handle a true strict Mistress? Call one here at MistressOfMean.com and see if you can impress her!